If you suspect that you may be suffering from low sex drive, the first step is to visit your doctor, to ensure that a medical problem is not to blame for your low sex drive.
Your doctor may identify a medical problem even if you do not realize that one exists. For example, what may seem like depression or anxiety could stem from a hormonal imbalance, vitamin deficiency, or other medical problem.
If your physician rules out a medical problem, it may be wise to seek the advice of a mental health professional.
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Use this checklist to determine what factors may be linked to your low sex drive:
If you have answered yes to one or more of these questions, these factors could be influencing your sex drive. Some issues can be resolved by talking the situation over with your partner, while others may require more specialized treatments.
You may find that a psychologist or therapist can help you identify and examine underlying problems in your life.
To find a qualified mental health professional, look for the following educational criteria:
- Advanced degree, such as M.D. (psychiatrist) or Ph.D. (psychologist)
- M.S.W. (social worker), M.A. or M.S. (marital and family therapist or nurse), or M.F.C. (marriage and family counselor)
Check with clinics, universities, hospitals, medical schools, or social agencies, or ask for a referral from a university department of psychology.
If the medical examination reveals no problems and a psychologist or therapist finds no underlying issues that should be addressed, it may be wise to consider seeing a sex therapist. Sex therapists have special training in dealing with issues related to sexual health.
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Sex therapists should not be confused with sex surrogates. Unlike sex surrogates, therapists do not engage in sexual relations with their patients.
To find a sex therapist, look for experts with:
- Experience working with couples dealing with sexual problems
- Training in the treatment of sexual function
During therapy sessions, couples discuss their relationship and sexuality. Treatment involves identifying and modifying the emotions responsible for the problem, like guilt and fear, and teaching the couple better responsiveness techniques.
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A sex therapist may assign "homework" exercises geared at improving sexual communication and intimacy. These may include "sensate focus" exercises, in which couples lovingly touch each other but do not engage in sexual intercourse. They take turns caressing each other's body, teaching and learning how to give and receive pleasure. Eventually, once they feel ready, the exercise progresses to direct genital stimulation and then intercourse.
The woman may also need to take time to get to know her own body and find out what truly stimulates her. Once she understands her own body, she can better instruct her partner in what pleases her.
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- Facial hair
- Deepening of the voice
- Emotional mood swings
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